Tonight... my precious son asked me why...
get this... why sex is a bad word.
Did you all catch that?
It's absolutely true.
After collecting my thoughts and
quieting my internal screaming,
I asked my precious offspring where he had heard that word.
He told me... and this is the saddest part of it all ... that it is from one of the songs from my ipod. Seriously?!?!?!?!?
It's an early 90's song from the Vipers called Turning Japenese.
In the song is says, "No sex, no drugs, no wine, no women"... and continues on to sing some more with it's oh-so-super catchy tune.
Thankfully we had a super cute babysitter that told my children that sex is a bad word. Thank you Jessie Groesbeck and her family for raising such a great girl. The sad part of it all... is that I felt if I never said anything... to my children it would just be another word. They don't know what the Vipers are really singing about anyway... right? We just like the tune. Right? Isn't that what I said when I was a teenager. Right? So here I am, stuck cleaning up a mess... that I made.
I told my son all the age appropriate things (he is 6 1/2), and definitely a very G-rated version. Then he says to me, "If it's so sacred, why do you and daddy kiss in front of us kids?" Again, I am dying. I just said, "we just don't say the word sex, so please never say it to your friends or your teachers at school". Then, my son, who is going to be my ticket to heaven says, "Well mom... if that song says a bad word, then we shouldn't listen to it anymore, right?"
Yes Tanner. You are right.
I just might get to heaven after all. I love you son.
8 comments:
I have to admit, that after a previous post or status that said you guys liked listening to that song, i wondered if you realized it talked about sex. i should have said something! Don't be too hard on yourself, we all have those kind of songs that we need to be better about. Camryn was singing a song by the killers today, and thankfully stopped right before the part where it says damn. your doing a great job, Tanner is such a cute boy.
AHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
I think you handled it perfectly. Evil evil Ipod!!
Andrew was about this same age when he told me Carter said the "S" word. We thought he ment Sh__.
Nope he ment S-X. (I can't even spell it is so horrible!). We told him it wasn't a bad word...but an adult word, not to be thrown around school..church...around friends. He recently learned (g-rated) it's how babies are made. He learned that when I was pregnant with Saylor. ...He put the connection together. I won't elaborte (call me and I'll give you the details!) Dang smart 9 year olds.
Ok...I have more to say. To go with Megans comment, there is nothing quite like hearing my three year old sing, "Somebody told me you have a boyfriend who looks like a girlfriend..." I love the killers.
Also I agree about the light up shoes. Tanner I think you are adorable. I also think those shoes are pretty bad. And...please don't walk into any furniture while looking down at your shoes. Love, your neighbor Jill
you naughty I-Pod loving mother :)
So, so scary. When Lauren was 3, she asked me how babies got inside a mommy's tummy. I almost passed out. So, Brian and I have discussed how to handle this question from really young children. Even when you give them the very basic, G rated explanation it is still horrible and awkward.
Side note: I found out that Tanner did kiss Lauren at school. But, only on the cheek. And she says that she didn't even want him to, so that makes it okay. We had a whole other talk about that one!
Ok, so I have to leave a comment...love how you handled this. It is tricky navigating these parenting waters at times.
A friend recently recommended a book to me on the subject...How to talk to your child about sex by Linda and Richard Eyre. Love their approach. Just thought I would mention it.
It's better that they learn about the word form you then at school! Don't beat yourself up too much. You handled it well, and now he knows not to use it and if he hears it he knows that it's not appropriate. Thanks to you he is smarter and it will be easier to make good decisions.
Oh those kiddos, they teach us things everyday, don't they?! You handled this so well! I often wonder why they have to grow up. I am not ready for some of the things we have ahead. :) I loved that Tanner made the point about not listening to it...just about brought tears to my eyes. You are raising a GOOD boy! Love ya!
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